{"id":4277,"date":"2018-10-23T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2018-10-22T22:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.samsara.es\/apren-a-modificar-els-teus-patrons-en-les-relacions-de-parella\/"},"modified":"2025-05-22T15:50:59","modified_gmt":"2025-05-22T13:50:59","slug":"apren-a-modificar-els-teus-patrons-en-les-relacions-de-parella","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.samsara.es\/ca\/apren-a-modificar-els-teus-patrons-en-les-relacions-de-parella\/","title":{"rendered":"Apr\u00e8n a modificar els teus patrons en les relacions de parella"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A l\u2019entrada anterior del nostre blog parl\u00e0vem dels tres patrons de conducta m\u00e9s habituals en les relacions de parella: el passiu, l\u2019agressiu i l\u2019emp\u00e0tic assertiu. T\u2019identifiques amb un dels tres models? Creus que adoptes una forma d\u2019interacci\u00f3 d\u2019estil passiu o agressiu i t\u2019agradaria modificar-la?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Tot seguit t\u2019expliquem qu\u00e8 pots fer per canviar amb \u00e8xit la teva forma de viure les relacions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">El primer pas \u00e9s <strong>l\u2019observaci\u00f3<\/strong>: para atenci\u00f3 a quins s\u00f3n els teus pensaments i sentiments i a com els transmets. Alhora, observa la teva parella: escolta-la amb atenci\u00f3, de manera activa i intenta posar-te en el seu lloc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Planteja\u2019t algunes q\u00fcestions:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>Creus que les teves parelles han tingut algunes caracter\u00edstiques semblants?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>&nbsp;Les relacions anteriors, s\u2019han trencat sempre pel mateix motiu?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>&nbsp;Hi ha similitud entre la forma de ser &nbsp;de la teva parella i la del teu pare\/mare?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Pot ser interessant demanar opini\u00f3 externa: pregunta al teu entorn, a un amic o familiar, si veu l\u2019exist\u00e8ncia d\u2019algun patr\u00f3 recurrent.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Quan l\u2019hagis detectat, intenta <strong>trobar quin pot ser el seu origen<\/strong>, ja que moltes vegades provenen d\u2019esdeveniments viscuts o apresos durant la infantesa. Fes-ne una reinterpretaci\u00f3: pensa que aquella conducta no \u00e9s teva, que tens el poder de decisi\u00f3 de no repetir-la i que pots generar una conducta alternativa pr\u00f2pia molt m\u00e9s adequada i positiva.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure data-wp-context=\"{&quot;imageId&quot;:&quot;6ae4c32c0a165&quot;}\" data-wp-interactive=\"core\/image\" data-wp-key=\"6ae4c32c0a165\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-lightbox-container\"><img decoding=\"async\" data-wp-class--hide=\"state.isContentHidden\" data-wp-class--show=\"state.isContentVisible\" data-wp-init=\"callbacks.setButtonStyles\" data-wp-on--click=\"actions.showLightbox\" data-wp-on--load=\"callbacks.setButtonStyles\" data-wp-on--pointerdown=\"actions.preloadImage\" data-wp-on--pointerenter=\"actions.preloadImageWithDelay\" data-wp-on--pointerleave=\"actions.cancelPreload\" data-wp-on-window--resize=\"callbacks.setButtonStyles\" src=\"https:\/\/www.samsara.es\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/ambroparella.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-4762\"\/><button\n\t\t\tclass=\"lightbox-trigger\"\n\t\t\ttype=\"button\"\n\t\t\taria-haspopup=\"dialog\"\n\t\t\tdata-wp-bind--aria-label=\"state.thisImage.triggerButtonAriaLabel\"\n\t\t\tdata-wp-init=\"callbacks.initTriggerButton\"\n\t\t\tdata-wp-on--click=\"actions.showLightbox\"\n\t\t\tdata-wp-style--right=\"state.thisImage.buttonRight\"\n\t\t\tdata-wp-style--top=\"state.thisImage.buttonTop\"\n\t\t>\n\t\t\t<svg xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"12\" height=\"12\" fill=\"none\" viewBox=\"0 0 12 12\">\n\t\t\t\t<path fill=\"#fff\" d=\"M2 0a2 2 0 0 0-2 2v2h1.5V2a.5.5 0 0 1 .5-.5h2V0H2Zm2 10.5H2a.5.5 0 0 1-.5-.5V8H0v2a2 2 0 0 0 2 2h2v-1.5ZM8 12v-1.5h2a.5.5 0 0 0 .5-.5V8H12v2a2 2 0 0 1-2 2H8Zm2-12a2 2 0 0 1 2 2v2h-1.5V2a.5.5 0 0 0-.5-.5H8V0h2Z\" \/>\n\t\t\t<\/svg>\n\t\t<\/button><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Si comences una nova relaci\u00f3 afectiva, para molta atenci\u00f3 a tots aquells indicis que apunten a qu\u00e8 est\u00e0s repetint un patr\u00f3. Com m\u00e9s aviat els identifiquis, m\u00e9s f\u00e0cil ser\u00e0 frenar-los.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Pren consci\u00e8ncia de la teva part de <strong>responsabilitat<\/strong> en la din\u00e0mica afectiva. Pensa que els rols de les relacions es retroalimenten. Aix\u00ed doncs, una persona amb una conducta passiva pot accentuar aquesta tend\u00e8ncia si es relaciona&nbsp; amb alg\u00fa m\u00e9s dominant. \u00c9s important que parleu sobre com us sentiu tots dos membres en el context de la relaci\u00f3.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>No \u00e9s recomanable que intentis cambiar l\u2019altre<\/strong>. Els canvis nom\u00e9s s\u00f3n efectius si la persona implicada ho fa de manera volunt\u00e0ria i sense coacci\u00f3. Valora, doncs, si et compensa tenir una relaci\u00f3 amb alg\u00fa que et fa repetir una forma de conducta poc beneficiosa.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Els patrons afecten tots dos membres de la parella, de manera que per assolir una&nbsp; modificaci\u00f3 permanent ha d\u2019haver un acord i una intenci\u00f3 per part dels dos de modificar la din\u00e0mica establerta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Cal tenir present, per\u00f2, que algunes relacions de parelles nom\u00e9s funcionen si es presenten determinats patrons. \u00c9s a dir, que si canvien les regles, el vincle es deteriora. Llavors \u00e9s quan s\u2019haur\u00e0 de valorar si la relaci\u00f3 pot o no continuar i quins s\u00f3n els pros i contres de prendre l\u2019una o l\u2019altra decisi\u00f3.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Treballa <strong>l\u2019autoestima<\/strong>: per poder assolir una relaci\u00f3 harmoniosa cal que aprenguis a estimar-te i a revaloritzar-te a nivell individual. Recorda que ets una persona \u201ccompleta\u201d i no la meitat d\u2019una taronja. 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